I could tell that my wife, Lynn, was becoming more and more rebellious. I believe she was having an identity crisis! When she accompanied me to TV tapings she seemed to always find a way to pick a fight, in the car, on the way to the taping. I was already stressed and this, of course, made it even worst. I believed and didn’t blame her for becoming tired of being “Mrs Kip Addotta.” She was loosing her identity. I got it! So I wasn’t surprised that, one day, she came to me and said: “I’m getting a job!” The way she put it let me know the that our marriage was in trouble. Here’s how it went!
Lynn: “I’m getting a job!”
Kip: “I think that’s a good idea, Lynn”
Lynn: “You’re not going to talk me out of it!”
Kip: “I’m not trying to talk you out of it!”
Lynn: “Yes you are and it’s not going to work!”
Kip: ” Honey let’s buy a second car so that you can come and go as you please!”
Lynn: “stop trying to talk me out of it!”
Kip: “I’m not trying to talk you out of it! You’ve worked very hard raising our kids and its time for you to spread “Your” wings and make your own mark on the world!”
Lynn: “I don’t care what you say I’m getting a job!”
I began to think that our marriage may be over! My wife, Lynn, also went on strike and told the children and I that she was no longer going to be our housemaid.
The kids and I all pitched in and did laundry, cooking and house cleaning. We all loved Lynn very much and hoped she was going to be all right. Of course, when I was out of town things backed up. Looking back on these events I should have hired a maid to come in once a week, but it did not occur to me. My bad!
My wife, Lynn, told me that if she came back to us we would have to move to the west side, so, we sold our house, in Van Nuys, and moved to a large home in The Santa Monica Canyon. I was still traveling a lot and didn’t see my family often.
When I was home I spent most of my time at The Studio taping The game show “Everything Goes.”
Everything Goes was a game show that aired in the US from September 12, 1981 to September 28, 1988, with comedian Kip Addotta as host. It originally aired on Escapade for its first three years, then moved to the Playboy Channe in 1984 (where it became The All-New Everything Goes). The show was produced by Scott Sternberg Productions
The show’s theme song was ”Piccadilly” by Squeeze; while the open used only the instrumental open/close of the song (with a drumroll in between, to punctuate host Addotta’s intro), the full-length version was used during the closing credits.
After we were moved into our new home Lynn moved out and left me alone with the kids. Soon after that she informed me that she as filling for divorce. So as it turned out, she had put one over on me. She wanted to get the children out of what had become a changed neighborhood and once there she took off.
We tried to reconcile and Lynn did move back to us but once I learned tat she had started a relationship with another man. It was over. From then on I referred to her as plaintiff.
I gave up. She was gone and good riddance. In my mind, she will never loose her rank as the maternal head of our family, but as far as any romantic feelings? No!
We have very little contact, now. We see each other on family occations. Lynn is a great lady and as they say, “Hell as no wrath as that as a woman scorned. But it was not me who scorned her. Just the opposite. She left the house, she filed for divorce.
That would have never entered my mind. She was my wife, and had she given me the attention a man needs, I would never had to seek it out from another. I was happy. The one problem I did have was that Lynn wouldn’t touch me. She never initiated sex and was only forth coming when she had enough liquor in her to do so. A man like a women needs to feel that he is attractive to his mate. She once told me that she was A sexual. That may have been true. She certainly acted like it.
Then, after we were long divorced she told me that before we had met she had been raped. Had I known this before we were divorced I would have understood her behavior. And, I would made a phone call and had the guilty party taken cars of. Yes, I can be a dangerous man too.
But she didn’t tell me. I felt rejected by her, in every way. And angry. I was incensed that she was indifferent towards me. God Damn, her.
She did everything she could think of to fend me off. She gained weight, she didn’t bathe, she wouldn’t, any longer, pitch in around the house. I would take her walking with me and try to work some of the weight off of her. But, divorce? It never entered my mind. I was a one woman man and even though my behavior, at times, would belay that I would never have done any of these things had I not felt so rejected by her.
I have come to this place after years of blaming myself for our problems. Then I realized that it was not me that caused our demise, but her. I have long forgiven her for this, however, Lynn has not forgiven me and finds her stance as “The victom” is one that she is comfortable with and staunchly stands on it. Well, good riddance, my lovely. If you want to get rid of me, you will find it an easy thing to do. I am gone, forever.
Now that I have forgiven my self my whole outlook, on life, has changed. I like myself as I have never before. I am a good person.
Know this! Be careful who you commit to. That person may very well not be next door or anywhere near you. Travel. Get to know people and, then, you can choose that special person from a lodge contingence of people. And check a persons back ground. People will always put their best foot forward, showing you, only, the good parts. I see so many people choosing a partner to get something that are looking for that has nothing to do with the person they choose. For instance, I want to have children so I look for someone who wants to have choldre rather than someone who I truly admire.