Tommy Joseph Did It My Way!

07/27/2014 — 7 Comments



My Way

I am truly unique. Only a few insiders know this – but I knew Paul Anka when he was just a kid, just starting out in the business – long before he wrote perhaps the greatest song ever written – “My Way.”

What people also do not know is that Paul wrote it for me. I inspired it. One night he saw me perform and was impressed. As I came off the stage he said, “Tommy, do you know what I like most about you? You do it YOUR way.”

I said, “Paul – that sounds like a really good song title – ‘He did it his way’…..”, and Paul said, “Yes, but I think “I did it my way” sounds better – don’t you?”

“Yes”, I said, “that definitely sounds better.”

Later that very night Paul sat down and wrote the greatest song of all time – “My Way”. He did it his way, of course, but he wrote it about me. Few people know these inside stories, but if you manage to get Paul alone and ask him if what I say is true. he will admit it without hesitation, so great even to this day is his admiration for my boundless talent.


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7 responses to Tommy Joseph Did It My Way!

  1. TJ, Kip Addotta extends to you the honor and privilege of posting on his blog. Please do not take advantage of this valuable and generous offer. This post is bordering on Hubris.

    • Tommy Joseph 07/27/2014 at 08:44

      Al, I see your point. My report was a satirical reference to the hubris of Anka himself. I myself am not an insider, but the insiders don’t mess with me. They know that I know. Yes, I am grateful to Kip for publishing my comments. But they are not sent to him for that purpose. They are letters. It is Kip’s decision. In other words, Kip does it his way.


  2. TJ, I posted that in jest and Kip Addotta’s way is the right way.

    • Tommy Joseph 07/28/2014 at 20:22

      Thanks Al. You have openly stated that you are an actuary. As a human being subject to the same prejudices as other people, yes, I cannot deny that me being aware of your profession has perhaps given me a false picture of you. I see an ultra serious guy devoid of humor – all numbers, all data, all mapped out. This was narrow minded of me.

      But we all do it. I am Tommy Joseph, but have at times referred to myself as Tommy Joe, a nickname my uncle gave me that sort of stuck, I guess because, for some reason or another, I wanted it to.

      But when I use that name, Tommy Joe, I notice the reactions from people in newsgroups to my words is different from when I use Tommy Joseph. They have me pegged as a bumpkin, or even worse, a pseudo bumpkin – and that influences the way they interpret my words – in very much the way I interpreted your words as serious and sober simply because you are an actuary.

      If I gave you my data I’d be willing to bet you’d have had me in a coffin 15 years ago. I have some healthy habits too. Anyway, Al, I suspect that maybe your words are often wrongly taken too seriously be me on the basis of me knowing that you are an actuary. See how I am able to analyze myself, see my flaws, and then openly admit them for all? We need more people in the world like that. Thanks for clearing things up, Al.


  3. Very nice post TJ. You understand. Uncle Kippy has the same problem except in reverse. People assume he is always trying to be funny or that they have to try and be funny. Neither of us are defined by our professions. Only a fool states their profession when asked “What do you do?” (another asinine moronic question people need to stop asking).

  4. Tommy Joseph 07/30/2014 at 21:12

    I guess when all is said and done everyone does it their own way, sort of. For example, I am one who was never offended by anyone asking for my profession, or my age for that matter.

    I was proud to say, “I drive a cab”, when someone asked what I did for a living. I did not look like a cab driver, whatever that looks like. When I’d tell them I drive a cab, they’d say, “You mean you own the company?” I enjoyed that.

    It’s like when someone asks your age. If you look younger than you really are, if you’re 75 but look 55, you’re going to love the question. If you’re 55 and you look 75, not so much. It is a funny topic though, and an interesting one.

    I had an uncle who would always get annoyed when someone asked his age.

    “What difference does it make?”, he’d say.

    From there, the person asking the question – me, perhaps – might say, “Well, I was just wondering.”

    “Why were you wondering?”

    “Well, I’m just curious.”

    “Why are you curious?”

    “Cause I just want to know.”

    “Why do you want to know?”

    As you can see, this can go on all night. It can get old. So, if someone is offended and does not wish to reveal their profession or age, I understand – I really do. At the same time, as one who considers himself a thoughtful person, I must admit I have never been ashamed or embarrassed to ask someone their age or profession. That’s because I would not be embarrassed or ashamed if they asked it of me. If they don’t want to answer, fine – no pressure – we move on.

    I see their point though. I understand. It’s true, usually when we ask such questions we have reasons, some of which can be hidden. Like, if you find out a person is 10 years younger than you and one day you’re in an argument about something from the past you can always say, “What the hell do you know about it, you were just a punk kid back then?”

    But sometimes such questions can be the result of simple, innocent curiosity – if there is such a thing. And I think there is. Maybe.


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